Is she actually speaking to him, after the way he behaved at the luncheon?
Practically speaking, I wouldn't have responded that way in public.
The first example wants clarity, wants the fact on a situation, which is what the word actually means; it pertains to what is fact or reality. While the second example refers to what is useful, advice that makes sense, regardless of whether one uses it or not.
The firm has actually decided to give us bonuses this quarter!
They have flipped practically every house in our neighborhood.
The first example conveys a result, fact, or outcome. While the second example conveys something that has almost, or nearly happened.